Blow By Blow On Oral Sex

Dear Trap Mary, 
Hi, 
I want to know how to give a killer Blow Job. That's it. 
Thanx 
Need to know blow by blow

Dear Blow By Blow, 
Oral sex is fun and a great way to experiment in having sex. While giving/receiving a blow job has extremely low risk of HIV 
infection but we do see cases of other STDs like chlamydia, gonorrhea, herpes and syphilis spread through oral sex. So my 
first piece of my advice would be to practice SAFE SEX, and that means making sure your partner is wearing a condom. If 
the thought of that is unappealing to you, let me advise you that there are condoms that come in different flavors, which could 
not only ensure your safety, but also add to the fun!

Now, as far as getting to your actual question. How to give a “killer Blow Job”. I’m assuming by “killer” that you mean “great”, 
right? Because once again, some STD’s can kill, and we don’t want to do that. And…I’m assuming that this is someone who 
you have a solid relationship with. Let me just hope for the best and give you some tips “blow by blow” lol

• #1 Get comfortable and make sure you are relaxed and not tense…DearTrapMary doesn’t want you to put any strain on your 
neck…don’t fall for that No Pain/No Gain. This should be enjoyable for both of you.

• # 2 Show him whose boss! Make the first move and he'll be like you’ll have him eating out of your hands. If you're using 
condoms (which I hope you are), slip it onto him using just your mouth.

• # 3 Start off slowly and remember to take your time in teasing him. Imagine eating an ice cream cone. Now this part is really 
involved…but pay close attention: Lick the tip (head) in a circular motion, , run your tongue up the side and beneath. While 
doing this, tickle his testes (balls) slowly,….and from time to time take your moth off and kiss his inner thighs. If your rhythm is 
right (and you will know by his actions), then he’ll be really worked up by now.

• # 4 Mouth his penis, squeezing him gently between your lips. Remember…Ice Cream Cone: you know how every once and a 
while you suck the top. So mouth it, baby! Now…don’t get too hyped, stay in control. Teeth can hurt can hurt, so slide your lips 
over your teeth to avoid pain for him (unless he’s into that kind of pain. Some men actually do like the feel of teeth, but most 
DO NOT). Listen to the sounds your man is making and let that guide you in guiding him to ecstasy. And you may even ask 
him from time to time “Do you like when I do this?” …say that in a sexy voice; that drives them wild.

# 6 As you suck, don't forget to use your tongue for added sensations. Sounding like you're enjoying yourself with humming 
sounds will not only boost his ego but increase his pleasure as your mouth vibrates on him. Now baby, this takes some 
coordination. It’s like a dance; some moves repeat and some moves you switch it up a bit. Make this your dance!

• # 7 Wet and slippery is a good thing, so make sure there's plenty of saliva flowing. Those with a dry mouth can introduce a 
tasty lubricant to get the juices flowing. A good rule of thumb is to have a glass of ice water nearby. You can actually make the 
act of taking a sip of water (in order to re-wet your mouth) sexy and seductive. If you’d prefer, you can have a warm beverage 
nearby, too. Sometimes the warm mouth on him will give him a “heated” experience.

• # 8 While your mouth is occupied, don't forget to use your hands. Stroke his thighs, tickle his balls, rub his abdomen. Some 
men love having their perineum (the area between the balls and anus) stroked. Some like it one step further with a finger 
being gently inserted in the anus, however I wouldn't recommend this if you have long nails as you may cause pain. Also, I 
wouldn’t try this is your man is closed minded, either…because if he is, don’t do this step!

• # 9 While keeping eye contact can be difficult, occasionally look at his face. Not only will you see his pleasure but he'll have a 
lovely view of the most beautiful person in the world worshipping his manhood. It's a real buzz for both of you. Just pretend 
you’re making an adult movie (but please…don’t have the camera’s rolling because that’s who you end up in the tabloids and 
OUR BLOG, lol

• # 10 Remember, using your hands isn't cheating. Use your hand as an extension of your mouth if necessary to give your 
mouth a break. Girl, depending on the man, if he’s one of those patient types, you could get really tired. And the whole point of 
this was to give a “killer blow job”, so you’ve got to be a soldier.

• # 11 Increase your speed until you find a rhythm you both like. When it seems he's nearing his peak, whatever you do, don't 
slow down or change direction suddenly. That’s going to throw him off, thus making your job a whole lot longer (yawn).

• # 12 As he nears orgasm, the decisions are up to you. Some men will tell you as they're about to, which makes things easier 
as you're prepared. If you are using a condom (remember, DearTrapMary recommends you do), then you’ll be elated when he 
orgasms….you’ll be the hero! Of course, if you’ve decided not to use a condom, then you’ll really want to be prepared 
because that blow hole is gonna blow! Whether you spit or swallow or finish him off with your hand, he'll still feel the pleasure.

• # 13 Once he orgasms (good job, girl!), slow down or stop completely as it could be uncomfortable for him. Many men are 
very sensitive at that point.

Give yourself a pat on the shoulder, and every time you eat an Ice Cream Cone, send DearTrapMary a shout-out