Dear Self

Dear Self,
  Promise to treasure your time.
Don't fall in love with potential.
Remember that just because you want it doesn't mean it deserves to have you.
Be patient, but don't procrastinate.
Be hopeful, but not naive.
When its right, you'll know. 
You don't have to force it.


How many times do we get a notion to just dive into something... Like a new relationship with someone else...without first taking the time out to have a good relationship with ourselves? I think we take for granted the time that we actually do have to learn about ourselves. Yes, we have time alone to the point where we are jumping up and down for more human interaction, but did we use any of that alone time for self evaluation? More times than not the answer is no.

If you reading this post, then I'm definitely speaking to you. What are you doing right now? I can say that right now I am writing to you, watching a game, counseling a client, and  moving my legs about here and there and actually treasuring my time. I long to write all of the time but rarely get the leave and quiet to do so.

Not falling in love with potential is tricky.  Potential has always been that selling point for anything doubtful. "Well, she has potential" is something that's often said. But the way its said comes off like the chances are slim. Why fall in love with "slim" when you can hold out for thick and healthy. I'm just saying, potential has all the risks as anything else so why go all the way with it right away. Taking your time will advise you if the time is right or not. 

Remember that just because you want it doesn't mean it deserves to have you.  As much time as I've put into people that just didn't make the cut for forever in my life, I know that what I want is not what I need, so I have to stop wanting things that are not right for me.  Eye Candy is not always so sweet, so we have to look deeper into things and face reality on what's best for us.  When you love yourself and value yourself, you will know what your worth is and what you don't deserve.  

Be patient, but don't procrastinate.  How many times are we patient on something but still we linger around and don't put forth any effort on our end?  We have to do the work, too. Patience is one of the biggest virtue because it allows us to wait for something without losing our minds from frustration.  Waiting is frustrating.  But it is necessary.  When we lose patience, we lose some of our peace (and you take peace away from others, as well).   Yes, do the work and don't be slow about it, and make the effort but then be patient.  


Be hopeful, but not naive.  Nobody wants to walk around feeling like things won't work out for them, worried about the next move, etc.  We want to have hope that things will fall into place as they should.  However, we can't be naive.  Some things just won't happen.  Some people just aren't going to be honest with us.  Some things just aren't for us and we can't walk around naive or we will fall for anything too many times.  

When its right, you'll know.  There's this little voice inside of all of us that tells us when it's right.  Some call that Spirit or Intuition or just Knowledge.  You will experience so much in your time on Earth, having success and taking losses.  But when it's right....when it's really right and there is no way that it could be wrong...you'll know.  And prayerfully you do the right thing, whatever that may be. 

You don't have to force it.  When it flows, it flows.  When it fits, it fits.  If you are forcing it, something could get lost in translation and it won't be what it is supposed to be (whatever that is). Allowing things to happen naturally allows for the additional growth that is needed to happen, which makes it better all around.  Like childbirth, you want to wait as long as you can so that things will develop properly.  You don't have to force it.  It will happen naturally.

In all things keep Spirit/GOD first.  

Love and Light, Peace and Blessings, Walk in faith.

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Mama Caren